There’s this cute guy where I work. He loves flirting with me. I don’t know if he knows that I am interested in him. I want to say something back but where do you cross the line between harassment in the work place? I want to be with some one. I don’t know if he is just flirting with me or he is serious. I think he likes to shock How can I find out?

A Cry for Help

Hot: First we need to know your relationship to said stud muffin. Are you peers? Does he work for you? Do you works for him? If he works for you, don’t touch!! If you work for him, what the hell are you thinking? If you must go there, then consider the outcome. You fall madly in love for two weeks, he stops calling, you awkwardly avoid eye contact at staff meetings . . . It’s just not pretty.

Sexual Harassment is serious and you have a good chance of losing your job, so you should probably look somewhere else for romance.

Heavy: Wow, Hot you are always the voice of love. I would have thought you would have said go for it, but I agree. The old adage of “Don’t Eat where you. . ." holds true. Work place romance often leads to disaster. Most companies frown upon employee dating, because even if it were to work out initially, what happens when things change. Do you now need to avoid a co-worker? Will he feel pressured to leave? Will you?

You’ve signed your question “A Cry for Help.” I will be so bold as to assume you are possibly coming to terms with your own budding sexuality, there a folks who can help you. There a Gay and Lesbian Hotlines in the phone book who can direct you to local support groups. The Internet has many online resources, as well. There are many folks in the LGBT community who are welcoming and supportive and you won’t be risking your job.

Resource Guides to Coming Out

Do you have questions about the coming out journey? The Human Rights Campaign has a set of resources to help you along the way. Download a copy of the newly released Resource Guide to Coming Out, or read it online. Or download Resource Guide to Coming Out for African Americans, the Spanish-language Guía de Recursos Para Salir Del Clóset or the guide to Living Openly in Your Place of Worship.