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August 16, 2006

Bear History . . .

 

 

In the beginning there were no bear clubs, there were few formally organized groups in the earliest days. The bear community originated in the 80's by men who felt that mainstream gay culture was unwelcoming to men who did not fit a particular bodily norm (thin, hairless, gym toned and young).

The original "bear bar" was the Lone Star in SF - in its early days they played only hard rock 'n' roll and heavy metal music at the bar. It was in the South of Market district of San Francisco - the other bars in the area were Leather/Levi bars. It was frequented by the Rainbow Motorcycle Club and other bikers. The Rainbow Motorcycle Club was instrumental in the formation of SF's Bear community. They weren't into fashion leather - only biker leathers. The original Lone Star was closed due to the October 'quake of '89 and opened shortly after in its present location. When the original owner Richard died, it was sold by his survivors to the bar's present owner.

Today's bear runs are an outgrowth of the motorcycle runs of the 50's and 60's.

Originally, Bear had nothing to do with size - they weren't a group of guys that went to the gym but neither were most of them big Girth & Mirth sized. That is evidenced by the early couple years of Bear Magazine where there were many thinner guys featured as "models" in the magazine. Many of the "centerfold models" were just guys that hung out at the Lone Star back then. Common denominator was facial hair and a masculine, friendly attitude. But the simplest definition of Bear comes from that magazine's tag line -Masculinity Without the Trappings" - a line that was coined by the original owner of Bear Magazine, Richard Bolger (who has been seen on Bear411 recently).

Girth and Mirth members (an organization for large guys) started to merge in with the bear community in the early-90s. Bears eventually began to be associated with size. In recent years, websites like Musclebear.com & Lazy Bear Weekend have had a huge impact on the so-called definition of a Bear, further dividing much of the community into 2 camps (gym and no gym - or muscle and chub). Bear Magazine was sold in the 90s. It became more of a showcase for porn stars. American Bear was the next magazine on the scene aimed at our community.

The early Bear gatherings in San Francisco were called Bear Expo. Many of the men involved in putting those on created International Bear Rendezvous (Rainbow MC members Lurch, David Dysart, Steve Stafford - all now gone)so the funds could go to charity. By the mid-90s the triple crown of Bear events was considered to be IBR in SF, Bear Pride in Chicago and Bear Bust in Orlando. Many men traveled the circuit making new friendships and renewing old ones. By that time Bear Clubs were all over the US and beyond.

And so begins our history . . .

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August 11, 2006

Bear troubles . . .

Bear troubles . . .
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It's been a week.  After any big bear run (Last weekend's "Lazy Bear" for instance), there is always a buzz on the message boards about what it means to be a bear.  Is it an attitude?  Is it a look?  Big? Small?  Muscles?  Chub? 

It's a volatile question with many personal interpretations.  And like any group, cliques are formed and feelings are hurt.  "The muscle bears snubbed the chubs . . ."  I am not pretending to have the magic answer for this.  It's the nature of the beast.

I do however have some unsolicited advice.  "Don't let others define you! Live life on your own terms and be the "BEAR" you want to be."  It's about being happy in your own skin and finding friends and lovers who accept you for who and what you are. 

I could lose 10 pounds, hell I could lose 20 - but if I do it's because I want to, not to strive for some other's ideal.  And for me that’s the genesis of the bear movement - being genuine!  It's not about a look, it's not about size - it's about being you.  Quirky, sometimes dysfunctional, always lovable, true to the end - YOU! 

I'll leave you with a quote from one of my favorite bears -

"No One Can Make You Feel Inferior Without Your Consent" -Eleanor Roosevelt

Have a great weekend,

WOOF!

August 01, 2006

Acceptable Behavior

This past weekend was Dore Alley.  For those of you out of the area, Dore Alley is an annual leather street festival that features mild to wild, with everything in between.  My business partner recently broke her ankle and attended the event in a wheelchair – which you may be interested in knowing is about at cock level – “You might want to put some sunscreen on that . . . .”

The next day, I was driving to work listening to the radio and the local gay radio jocks were bitchin’ about Dore Alley.  “It’s stuff like that that sets back the gay movement.  Don’t they know that the media loves that kind of stuff, which hurts our chances with gay marriage . . .” According to these two (who will remain nameless), we are supposed to be respectable and passable. 

WHAT?

Ok, so I nearly drove off the road yelling at my radio (which is not as productive as you would think).  

These are the types of gay men who scare me.  The whole idea of acceptance is accepting oneself for who you truly are and not being defined by the media or political agendas or simply by others. 

It’s about living life on your own terms. And to borrow heavily from the Laurel Thatcher Ulrich quote – Well-behaved gays seldom make history. 

Those that could fit in have always retreated to the safety of their closets.  Let us not forget - Stonewall was a bunch of pissed off drag queens.  So, you are going to tell me what is acceptable gay behavior?  Oh No Miss Thing – You did not go there!!  Once you start to define “the norms” by which I am supposed to live – you’ve started down a very slippery slope.  I don’t what to be acceptable; I don’t need to “pass” as straight and I surely don’t need you to tell how to act. Those that could fit in have always retreated to the safety of their closets.Let us not forget - Stonewall was a bunch of pissed off drag queens.

Am I threatening our chances for gay marriage?  Well - if I am, then I don’t want it on those terms.  “If you promise not to act gay . . .” Marriage is a right afforded to most couples in our country and I as a citizen deserve that basic right.  I am not a second class citizen, and no “straight” couple has to adhere to guidelines on what is acceptable “straight” behavior.

So, I will continue to be different.  I may be the 7 foot tall drag queen in stiletto heels and I will get media coverage - because I am fabulous and I am interesting.  Why don’t “average” folks get the media spotlight – Well, because you’re not interesting, you are average.  So, we are officially putting the gay community on notice – We will not be clones.  We will wear leather - We will be a bears - We will wear drag - We will be Dykes on Bikes - We will be tranny kids - but we will not try to pass just to fit in.